“I had a huge loss and a huge gain.” Jena Friedman on using comedy to work through her grief. Watch Edinburgh Unlocked on BBC iPlayer #EdinburghUnlocked #JenaFriedman | BBC Scotland

Grief can be so brutal. And sometimes, things happen that are too precise to be entirely random. I think of these things as deep companions inside grief. They don’t make the pain go away, but they lay down alongside it, making things different, if even for a moment. Can we talk about these? Can we make it safe for each other to share these occurrences, without having to defend our intelligence? I’ll go first. Here's a story that happened to me in 2011. Gifts come in many forms. Days like this on